1.) MISSIONARY

Cox: Place a pillow underneath your butt. Instead of simply lying back as he thrusts in and out of you, sit up halfway, lift your butt, and then slowly lean backward. Repeat until one of you climaxes.

Chen: For women who find it difficult to reach orgasm in the missionary position, I recommend helping yourself along to orgasm by stimulating your clitoris while he’s on top. Just the visual alone of you touching yourself will be a feast for his eyes. During missionary your partner can leave just enough space in between your bodies so that you can slip your hand in between, reach down, and slowly stroke your own clitoral area (or C-spot) to the rhythm of his strokes, building yourself up to orgasm; with a little bit of practice it’s a great way to time reaching your orgasms together.

2.) WOMAN ON TOP

Cox: Move your body in small circles as you lift and lower your pelvis. Have him sit up, with his legs straight out in front of him. Lower yourself onto his penis and sit with your knees bent, facing him, with your feet flat on the floor.

3.) DOGGIE STYLE

Cox: Rather than kneel, lie facedown on the bed, with your legs spread. He lies on your back and penetrates you from behind. Try having him stand behind you while you gradually—and carefully!—lean forward until your hands touch the floor.

Chen: While on all fours, with your partner behind you, either instruct your partner to reach around, or guide your partner’s hand around your hips. Qith a finger or two begin gently stroking your C-spot while you’re being penetrated from behind. Done properly, slowly, and gently, you can build up to an explosive orgasm.

4.) SIDE-BY-SIDE

Cox: Grind your body against his penis, bending from the waist and moving your upper torso downward. Reach around to fondle him while he’s moving in and out of you.

5.) MANUAL STIMULATION

Chen: Grab him by the balls—he’ll be happy you did. Just like a man has pleasure receptors in his anus, these same happy sensors extend to his testicles. If you find yourself on top or on bottom and you’ve got a free hand, slowly and softly grab and rub his balls while you’re riding him. Or, if you’re on bottom, reach for his balls as he’s penetrating you during deeper strokes. Give them a gentle tug and notice his immediate pleasure receptors.